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Relax, Relate, Release


If you didn’t know it by now, mental health is an extremely popular topic on television, social media, and even in music. With good reason. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, about 40 million American adults suffer from anxiety disorders. In all my adolescent years of yearning to become an adult never did anyone say it would be this stressful. I often find myself questioning my capability to live the life I have always envisioned. At times it can all seem so far away. Sis, hold your head up high. Though anxiety and depression are very real, do not allow it to rob you of your joy.


 Here are 4 ways to knock fear out when life has you on the ropes. 


  1. Choose Happy. Take a second right now and think of all the problems you are trying to overcome. Now take a deep breath and say aloud, “It’s going to be ok.” Thoughts become reality. If you spend your time dwelling on bad things, then all you’ll attract is negativity. Focus on what you can control and let the rest go. Also, live life thankful for what you do have instead of what you don’t. 

  2. Push Through. Beyonce’ once said that she gives herself one day to feel sorry for herself, and afterward, she pushes forward. Life is constant and whether you’re ready for or not it’s moving on. Acknowledge your feelings of sadness or anxiety, pick yourself up, and keep it pushing!

  3. Listen To Music. Nothing can change my mood like a good playlist. I listen to music daily to help me stay positive. Throw on your favorite artist and dance around the house, sing in the shower, or trap it out on the way to work. This is the perfect way to keep your energy up and to fight off those worrisome feelings of inadequacy. 

  4. Pep Talk. Now they say crazy people talk to themselves and they may be right, but giving yourself a quick pep talk can make a world of difference in your attitude. Whenever you start to have feelings of self-doubt just say, “Nope. We are not doing this today.” Tell yourself you can do it and that you got this because you do! 


Life is sure to test us all, but in the words of the late Nipsey Hussle, always stay ten toes down. We are the descendants of the strongest people known to man. Tenacity, fortitude, and strength live in you. Believe there is nothing you can’t do and watch fear retreat to its corner of the ring. 

Relax, Relate, Release!




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